set up daily activities chart for kids

            Posted on September 4, 2016 
 

Set up a daily activities chart for kids

Q. I’m in the middle of negotiations with the father of my children. Besides child support what terms and conditions should I be asking for?

A. This is the fifth in a series of articles about what to have in a Joint Managing Conservator Agreement. In the last column, I left off at a need for a joint parenting plan regarding discipline of the children. Here I start at:

5 (a)(3) Separately or together, both JMCs will talk with and explain they want to work with each child to develop a chart of daily activities so the child can easily earn points to do fun things.

(a)(4) (i) With the child present, the JMC will draw a chart that has eight lines going left to right across the page and 13 lines going from top to bottom. (ii) Write the word “activity” in the top box on the left side of the page. To the right, write in the days of the week - from Sunday to Saturday. (iii) In the column that runs down the left side of the chart work with the child to create a list which breaks that child’s day into about twelve parts, such as: (A) Getting up, dressed, and ready for breakfast; (B) eating breakfast; (C) getting ready for and out the door on time to go to and being on time to start school or other morning activities: (D) being in school or activity from arrival up to lunch time; (E) eating lunch at school, home, etc. and cleaning up after lunch; (F) afternoon activities at school, home, or elsewhere: (G) late afternoon: doing homework or other activities until supper; (H) eating supper, helping to clear table, getting ready for to do evening tasks; (I) no use of electronic play or music devices until all homework is done and checked; (J) getting ready for bed on time, including reading books, etc., and going to bed; and (L) staying quietly in bed until the next morning.

(a)(5) During this process, whenever the child complains, use the word “nevertheless” to explain that the child needs to cooperate. Otherwise, he or she might be staying home while other children go to the movies, get ice cream, earn a larger allowance, etc. It is O.K. to stop, if necessary, even if you’ve only agreed on one or two segments.

The remaining parts of this section will be in next week’s column.

For now, keep in mind that each child is special and different from other children. This “chart” concept gives each child the opportunity to develop his or her own list of segments. Children quickly grasp that by saving up points, they can get to the arcade, movie, or wherever they want to go. And the JMCs teach their child how to get there.