mom worried dad planning to kidnap sons

            Posted on December 4, 2016 
 

Mom worried dad planning to kidnap sons


Q.   My husband, Ammar, was born and raised in Syria. He never said how he got into the United States. After we married, he became a U.S. Citizen. He has no relatives or ties to Boston or the country other than me and our three children, all boys, ages 9, 10, and 13. They all have U.S. and Syrian passports.

I’m a U.S. Citizen with plenty of family in this area. Ammar claims he has lots of relatives who life in safe areas in various parts of Syria.

Today Ammar said, right after our children are out for their winter recess, he’s taking them to Syria. He refuses to show me the airline tickets, but promises he’ll bring them back in time to start school here in January.

I don’t know where he got money for plane tickets. For several years, he only worked short-term carpentry jobs that paid just enough to cover our rent and utilities. I work mother’s hours and get paid enough to buy our food.

I’m afraid Ammar won’t let our kids return to the United States. What can I do?

A.   First, tell your closest friend what’s going on. Be certain that person won’t tell Ammar anything. Ask if you and your children can stay at your friend’s home for a week or two. If a friend or relative won’t help, look up “shelters” or “safe-house” on the web. Talk with the head of your local house of worship.

Next, when Ammar leaves the house for a few hours, immediately pack a week’s worth of clothing, shoes, etc. for you and for each of your sons. Take that clothing to your friend’s house or to a temporary storage locker. Don’t use suitcases because Ammar may take one out to start packing stuff for the trip.

Third, Ammar might be planning to take the boys earlier than he told you. So do not let the children go to school for the three days before the start of their winter recess. Each day, call the school to say the kids are all ill.

Fourth, immediately write your affidavit containing all your facts and fears. Go to the Suffolk Probate Court. Meet with the “Lawyer for the Day” to ask for help filling out the necessary forms for you to get sole legal and physical custody of the children. Also ask to immediately appear before the emergency judge seeking immediate issuance of the order.

My website, nissenbaumhickey.com, has lots of other information on how to prevent kidnapping of a child.

I’ve heard the same kind of story from lots of parents who ignored all the warning signs. Most would still have their children if they took precautionary measures. Don’t think Ammar’s threat is a storm in a glass of water.